06 September 2014

Fraternal Correction



Homily for the Twenty-third Sunday in Ordinary Time
7 September 2014

        When I was in the seminary, there was a phrase thrown around that we dreaded hearing: fraternal correction.

        We hated hearing it because it often brought up one of two things: Either that person was going to nit-pic about something that you were doing that was annoying them, or they would give you their opinion on how they did something would be better if you did it their way.

        And while our First Reading and Gospel quite poignantly remind us of the idea of fraternal correction, it is not something that is easy to do – especially in our society today.

        Fraternal correction is not just telling someone that they’re doing something wrong, making them feel bad, and walking away. No, that’s bullying, and we must NEVER do that – no matter how old we are.

        Rather, fraternal correction is just that: Correcting someone’s thoughts, speech or actions within the realm of our relationship with Jesus Christ. It’s a duty that is not just up to the priest to do in the confessional, but is an obligation for each and every Christian to perform. Pope-Emeritus Benedict XVI reminds us: “Correcting the behaviors of those gone astray is an essential part of [the] Christian life. . . . If a fraternal correction is rebuffed, then Christians should follow the advice of Jesus – seek the witness of others and, if necessary, the sanctification of the wider Church.”

        It’s important that we hold people accountable for their actions, just as it’s important for us to be held accountable for our own actions. It’s important that we understand that we must answer Cain’s eternal question that, yes, we are our brothers’ keeper.

        It’s essential that we recognize our Christian duty to inform our family and friends when they are living lives contrary to the Gospel. And we do so not because of our own moral superiority, but we perform fraternal correction because we know the struggles sin and temptation put before us, and the support we need of each other in order to make it in this life.

        Yet, again, it’s a very difficult thing to do, the fraternal correction. It’s difficult because our societal mentality is that of, “If I’m not hurting anyone by my actions, or someone else is not hurting another because of their actions, who am I to judge or say anything?”. In society’s opinion, whatever I do is for my own good. I’m looking out for me, for my good. If it’s good for me, and not harming anyone else, then whatever I’m doing / saying / thinking is okay.

        It’s because of this mentality that Jesus asks us to do the difficult thing. Yet, it’s because of this difficulty that Jesus calls us to rise up to the occasion. It’s because of this difficulty that Jesus encourages us.

        Remember: There is no such thing as a private sin. All of our thoughts, words, and actions have consequences. What may be fine for one person, “because it’s not hurting anybody”, can actually cause grave scandal to another person. And just because someone “is a good person” doesn’t give us or them a blank check to do whatever the heck they want!

        God didn’t create us to be good; He created us to be holy.

        Saint Dionysius once said, “The highest of all Divine works is to cooperate in the salvation of souls.” Fraternal correction is our cooperation in the salvation of souls, for it helps people understand that they’re not made just to be “good”, but they’re created to be “holy”!

        How, then, do we call people – especially our family and friends – to holiness? We encourage them not to cohabitate before marriage. We ask them to recognize the dignity of the human person from conception to natural death. We ask them to uphold the gift of human sexuality, and not to reduce it to the desires of temptation and lust that are wanton in our nature. We help them to recognize the Divine plan found in marriage, and the proper roles and duties of the family found therein. We ask them to come to Mass with us, to discover or rediscover a relationship with Jesus Christ. We assist others in seeing the consequences of their actions through the eyes and heart of faith. And, in some ways, we thrust before them the call not simply to be “good”, but the vocation to be “holy”.

        G.K. Chesterton is famously known for have saying, “The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting. It has been found difficult, and left untried.” And so, it’s due to the difficult vocation of the Christian that we shy away from true fraternal correction. It is because fraternal correction takes us out of our comfort zone that we would rather people wallow in the depths of sin rather than climb the mountain of God’s grace. Pope-Emeritus Benedict XVI once again reminds us, “The world promises you comfort, but you were not made for comfort. You were made for greatness.”

        This greatness only comes to fruition when we strive for holiness – not just our own, but in the vocation of the salvation of souls, of being our brothers’ keeper. The reception of the Eucharist today should not only bring our lives more into conformity with Christ’s, but should give us the grace, strength, and courage to fulfill our vocation to call others to a life of holiness. The Eucharist isn’t just something that is good; He’s someone that’s holy, and our receiving of the Holy One should be the impetus that changes our lives and the lives of others.

        Fraternal correction is not an easy thing, but it’s a necessary thing. It’s not easy because anything worth-while in this life is never going to be easy. And yet, it’s necessary, because we want to be in heaven with those whom we love. And each of us, desiring Heaven, should never settle for being comfortable, for simply being “good”. Rather, we strive for greatness, we struggle to be holy. And because we love them, we practice fraternal correction, not simply because of the fear of the consequences of their sin, but for the hope of the consequences of being found great and holy in the eyes of God.
         




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